Question 1 · The Good News Test (Gottman Bid Response)
When you share something you're genuinely proud of (a project, a painting, a small win), what happens in the first 30 seconds?
Question 2 · The 'When' Assumption (Autonomy & Respect)
When plans involve your time, your money, or your personal space, how are decisions made?
Question 3 · Words vs. Consistent Action (The 30-Day Rule)
When you bring up something that hurts you, how long does his change actually last?
Question 4 · The Quiet House Test (Nervous System Check)
When you hear his car pull into the driveway—or when you imagine 30 days alone in a quiet cottage—what does your body feel?
Question 5 · Financial Transparency & Power
Do you have full visibility and equal voice over every bank account, investment, and major expense?
Question 6 · Public Solidarity (The Gallery Test)
In front of friends, family, or strangers, how does he position you?
Question 7 · The Empty Cup Reality Check
If nothing about his behavior changed for the next 10 years, what happens to the woman you are?
YOUR LIVE CLARITY DIAGNOSTIC
7 / 21 Points
Gottman Bid Pattern
Turning Away (Roommate Drift)
Recommended Protocol
30-Day Silent Action Audit
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Puffin's Squishy-Paw Verdict: He gets zero credit for promises—watch what he does at 7:00 AM for 30 days straight.