The quiz
Pick the answer closest to what usually happens, not what you wish happened. Nothing is stored or sent anywhere.
1. He says he'll sort something out (a booking, a call, a repair). What usually happens?
2. Plans the two of you made together:
3. When he talks about the future (moving in, a holiday, meeting family):
4. When money is involved in a plan:
5. After the first few months, his effort is:
6. When he gets something wrong:
7. Dates that matter to you (a birthday, an appointment, an event):
8. If a friend described your last month to you, she would say:
Early on, almost everyone is generous with words. Plans are big, messages are warm, and the future sounds settled. A few months in, the picture usually gets clearer: either the everyday behaviour keeps up with the talk, or it doesn't.
This quiz looks at that everyday behaviour. It isn't a test of whether he loves you, and it can't tell you what to do. It asks about ordinary things, because ordinary things are where follow-through shows.
Why everyday follow-through matters
Relationship researchers at the Gottman Institute describe small, repeated moments, such as responding when a partner reaches out, as the building blocks of trust. Big gestures matter less than whether the everyday responses are there.
That's why the quiz asks about bookings, plans and birthdays rather than grand declarations. Those small things are what you actually live with.
Want a wider view? The free 7-question relationship clarity quiz takes about three minutes and looks at the relationship as a whole, not one habit. Nothing is stored or sent anywhere.
The 7-Day Relationship Clarity Workbook
What's inside: A printable 7-day workbook plus a 30-day interactive tracker, to write down what is said, what happens and what keeps repeating.
Who it's for: For women who want a quiet, structured week to look at a relationship pattern on paper.
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Questions people ask
Is this quiz only for new relationships?
No. The questions work for a relationship of six months or twenty years.
What if my answers are all over the place?
That's common. The result shows your most frequent answer, and the line underneath shows the full mix.
Does a 'mostly words' result mean I should end it?
No. A quiz can't tell you that, and only you can decide what you want. It suggests the gap is worth looking at more closely.
Sources
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